Over the last year-and-a-half our country has experienced an alarming and tragic increase in young parents either abusing their own children or young people raping and killing young kids or old people. As a parent myself I cannot explain to you the shock, sadness and absolute disgust I experience on a daily basis as these horrific acts are reported on the news without seemingly any end to it.
Day after day my husband and I contemplate over the horror we experience and we keep asking ourselves the questions: “Why this sudden massive increase in these acts?”, “Why are so many young people between the ages of 18-30 committing these?”, and finally “What level of mindset, moral values and aggression must these people experience to consider acting against young children or old people in the way that they do without considering the consequences?”
This morning in my quiet time I was reading the story of Adonijah and how he set himself up as king even though his father, David, was still alive but very old. He is described as someone who exalted himself and was also a very handsome man, but the part that struck me the most is found in 1 Kings 1:6
1 Kings 1:6
His father had never at any time displeased him [Adonijah] by asking, “Why have you done thus and so?” (ESV)
Adonijah was the one that behaved outside of character, usurping David and God’s right to designate a successor for Israel, but David was partly held accountable for his son’s actions. In this short verse we get a good idea that in Adonijah’s case there was a parental negligence and indulgence involved as David never held him accountable for his behaviour or tried to correct him at any time.
This passage has given me one of the reasons for the current situation in our country. Over the years the law and the education system has changed so much that discipline in the school or in the household is frowned upon if not punished as a crime. Even though I do accept that there are always outliers involved where parents or educators can go totally overboard, we now have cultivated a culture in our young people where they almost never get corrected or disciplined for irrational behaviours and therefore have no boundaries to live by. The result: A culture where there is no fear that actions will be punished according to certain moral values and principles because quite frankly there is no real understanding anymore regarding right and wrong.
The Bible warns us against such behaviour and only one example is:
The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother
As parents and adults we have a responsibility to provide guidance to our children regarding right and wrong and sometimes this mean that there needs to be discipline and punishment involved. We can point fingers at these young people that has lost compassion and feeling for others but some of the finger pointing also need to come to us as parents.
I honestly do not know how we are going to fix this problem, but I do know that I have two children in my household and I can start there. God’s Word is very clear that I am not only blessed with children but that as a parent I have responsibilities that I need to take seriously otherwise my children’s future behaviour will be affected by my negligence thereof.